11/23/16
Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. —Ruth 1:16
TODAY’S DARE
Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.
Day 39: Love endures
11/22/16
Love never fails. —1 Corinthians 13:8
TODAY’S DARE
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.
Love never fails. —1 Corinthians 13:8
TODAY’S DARE
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your mate will find it.
Day 38: Love fulfills dreams
11/21/16
Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. —Psalm 37:4
TODAY’S DARE
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
He wants a new truck. Although we cannot afford to buy one now, the one he really wants. we can Lease one he likes for 3 years. In 3 years we can revisit the financial situation and maybe then get a new one he really wants. The house is the current goal, so we need to get a car we "like allot" rather than the dream car. I started diligently looking for Leases in the models he wants. And I suggested he call Tom Quirk for direction.
Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. —Psalm 37:4
TODAY’S DARE
Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
He wants a new truck. Although we cannot afford to buy one now, the one he really wants. we can Lease one he likes for 3 years. In 3 years we can revisit the financial situation and maybe then get a new one he really wants. The house is the current goal, so we need to get a car we "like allot" rather than the dream car. I started diligently looking for Leases in the models he wants. And I suggested he call Tom Quirk for direction.
37: Love agrees in prayer
11/20/16Day
If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. —Matthew 18:19
TODAY’S DARE
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.
If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. —Matthew 18:19
TODAY’S DARE
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.
Day 36: Love is God’s Word
11/19/16
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. —Psalm 119:105
TODAY’S DARE
Commit to reading the Bible every day. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. —Psalm 119:105
TODAY’S DARE
Commit to reading the Bible every day. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.
Day 35: Love is accountable
11/18/16
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. —Proverbs 15:22 NIV
TODAY’S DARE
Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. —Proverbs 15:22 NIV
TODAY’S DARE
Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
Day 34: Love celebrates godliness
11/17/16
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. —1 Corinthians 13:6
TODAY’S DARE
Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. —1 Corinthians 13:6
TODAY’S DARE
Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
Day 33: Love completes each other
11/16/16
If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? —Ecclesiastes 4:11
TODAY’S DARE
Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.
I always do this with everything. But, I made it a point to tell him (as I always do) how I want him to process and make decisions with me. I always make him feel included and his thoughts considered.
TODAY’S DARE
Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.
I always do this with everything. But, I made it a point to tell him (as I always do) how I want him to process and make decisions with me. I always make him feel included and his thoughts considered.
Day 32: Love meets sexual needs
11/15/16
The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. —1 Corinthians 7:3
TODAY’S DARE
If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.
We are not married. I did not do this Dare.
The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. —1 Corinthians 7:3
TODAY’S DARE
If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your husband or wife today. Do this in a way that honors what your spouse has told you (or implied to you) about what they need from you sexually. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you as well as a path to greater intimacy.
We are not married. I did not do this Dare.
Day 31: Love and marriage
11/14/16
A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. —Genesis 2:24
TODAY’S DARE
Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.
My abandonment and neglect issues are my own feelings from this relationship. They are not left-overs from my parents. I've worked through each of my past issues as God brought them to me. I am constantly asking God to bring up an issue for me to deal with if there are any left. God has been showing me that I am here, I have done the work, I am ready, I am walking from glory to glory - but Steve is not here, he has not done the work, he is not ready. We are not evenly yoked. Only God can bring about the "change" in Steve to cause him to hunger and thirst for His righteousness and to begin to act Christ-like.
A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. —Genesis 2:24
TODAY’S DARE
Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet? Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right. The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.
My abandonment and neglect issues are my own feelings from this relationship. They are not left-overs from my parents. I've worked through each of my past issues as God brought them to me. I am constantly asking God to bring up an issue for me to deal with if there are any left. God has been showing me that I am here, I have done the work, I am ready, I am walking from glory to glory - but Steve is not here, he has not done the work, he is not ready. We are not evenly yoked. Only God can bring about the "change" in Steve to cause him to hunger and thirst for His righteousness and to begin to act Christ-like.
Day 30: Love brings unity
11/13/16
Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. —John 17:11
TODAY’S DARE
Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. And if appropriate, discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.
Father, keep them in Your name, the name which You have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. —John 17:11
TODAY’S DARE
Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that He would do the same for them. And if appropriate, discuss this matter openly, seeking God for unity.
Day 29: Love’s motivation
11/12/16
Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. —Ephesians 6:7
TODAY’S DARE
Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say “I love you,” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.
Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. —Ephesians 6:7
TODAY’S DARE
Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you or not, say “I love you,” then express love to them in some tangible way. Go to God in prayer again, thanking Him for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person—unconditionally, the way He loves both of you.
Day 28: Love makes sacrifices
11/11/16
He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. —1 John 3:16 HCSB
TODAY’S DARE
What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. —1 John 3:16 HCSB
TODAY’S DARE
What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
Day 27: Love encourages
11/10/16
Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. —Psalm 25:20
TODAY’S DARE
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love. Day 28: Love makes sacrifices He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. —1 John 3:16 HCSB TODAY’S DARE What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. —Psalm 25:20
TODAY’S DARE
Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it. Promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love. Day 28: Love makes sacrifices He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. —1 John 3:16 HCSB TODAY’S DARE What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Is there a need you could lift from their shoulders today by a daring act of sacrifice on your part? Whether the need is big or small, purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
Priorities
Our Couples Therapist spoke about Priorities yesterday. This is paraphrased.
It's a matter of Priorities.
Figure out your Priorities.
What you do and in what order shows preference.
But what you do not choose to do speaks louder.
Choosing to listen to her, and take a suggestion that benefits the family shows you are choosing her above other things (especially self).
Doing the work he committed to (Love Dare, talking etc).
(Partial list, will keep adding as I recall or take from my notes)
11/9 I suggested again, he not drive in the height of traffic to work, to go get a check where there is plenty of money in the account. I asked him to wait until another day when he goes in for work. Especially considering he already went in one day this week, and i had asked him the same. It's a waste of gas and time when other things are more pressing.
It's a matter of Priorities.
Figure out your Priorities.
What you do and in what order shows preference.
But what you do not choose to do speaks louder.
Choosing to listen to her, and take a suggestion that benefits the family shows you are choosing her above other things (especially self).
Doing the work he committed to (Love Dare, talking etc).
(Partial list, will keep adding as I recall or take from my notes)
11/9 I suggested again, he not drive in the height of traffic to work, to go get a check where there is plenty of money in the account. I asked him to wait until another day when he goes in for work. Especially considering he already went in one day this week, and i had asked him the same. It's a waste of gas and time when other things are more pressing.
Day 26: Love is responsible
11/9/16
When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. —Romans 2:1 HCSB
TODAY’S DARE
Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.
When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. —Romans 2:1 HCSB
TODAY’S DARE
Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse. Do it sincerely and truthfully. Ask your spouse for forgiveness as well. No matter how they respond, make sure you cover your responsibility in love. Even if they respond with criticism, accept it by receiving it as counsel.
Day 25: Love forgives
11//16
What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. —2 Corinthians 2:10
TODAY’S DARE
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”
What did you forgive your spouse for today? How long have you been carrying the weight of it? What are the possibilities now that you've released this matter to God?
What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. —2 Corinthians 2:10
TODAY’S DARE
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”
What did you forgive your spouse for today? How long have you been carrying the weight of it? What are the possibilities now that you've released this matter to God?
Day 24: Love vs. Lust
11/7/16
The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. —1 John 2:17
TODAY’S DARE
End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed—today—and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.
what did you identify as an area of lust? What has this Pursuit cost you overtime? Has it led you away from the person you want to be? Right about your new commitment to see Kim - and to seek your spouse - - rather than seeking after foolish desires.
The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. —1 John 2:17
TODAY’S DARE
End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed—today—and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.
what did you identify as an area of lust? What has this Pursuit cost you overtime? Has it led you away from the person you want to be? Right about your new commitment to see Kim - and to seek your spouse - - rather than seeking after foolish desires.
Day 23: Love always protects
11/6/16
[Love] always protects. —1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV
TODAY’S DARE
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
what did you throw out first? Are there others that need to go as well? What do you hope the removal of these things will do for you, your marriage, and your relationship with God?
[Love] always protects. —1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV
TODAY’S DARE
Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
what did you throw out first? Are there others that need to go as well? What do you hope the removal of these things will do for you, your marriage, and your relationship with God?
Who is God's perfect man for me?
I did so many Bible studies on being single and on preparing to be a good wife. See the list of links in the left column--"Books that I have read that have shaped this Blog".
Eric and Leslie Ludy have a inspiring book I read and amazing CD of songs about the perfect man and woman as God created them to be to each other. I began in 2001 praying for my husband wherever he was.
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The man that the Lord has for me is His perfect match. “If you give God the pen to your life, He will write you the most amazing love story. Far beyond my deepest heart's desire. Far beyond whatever I could dream. Far beyond my fairy-tale imagination, is Your perfect plan for me” (Eric and Leslie Ludy.)
So, who is he?
This man knows and loves the Lord. He is someone who will talk about all things with me and confide in me. He is my best friend and knows me better than anyone; including the secrets of my heart that only God knows. Words are not needed to understand each other, as he is in tune with my soul: my mind, my will and my emotions. He accepts my faults and loves me unconditionally. I can be my true self; completely and freely. He knows I'm a work in progress like him and he accepts me exactly as I am.
He is the leader of our family, but he knows how to walk beside me and be my equal. He knows I can be independent, but realizes when I am fragile and vulnerable; I am completely safe with him. He wants to attain goals, have an abundant future, loves children and has a heart for my son. He loves to laugh and be silly, but knows when to be serious. Like my father showed me a man should be: he is protective, gentle, kind, tender, loving, humble, sincere, loyal, compassionate, patient, understanding, confident and is a man of integrity. I always feel special when I am around him because I am the focus of his attention and when we are together the world fades away; he captivates me.
He treats me as the Princess in God's kingdom that I am. Honoring and defending me, he is the one I trust enough to cry with. When I enter a room he guides me by the small of my back...
Eric and Leslie Ludy have a inspiring book I read and amazing CD of songs about the perfect man and woman as God created them to be to each other. I began in 2001 praying for my husband wherever he was.
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When Dreams Come True
When God Writes Your Love Story
The man that the Lord has for me is His perfect match. “If you give God the pen to your life, He will write you the most amazing love story. Far beyond my deepest heart's desire. Far beyond whatever I could dream. Far beyond my fairy-tale imagination, is Your perfect plan for me” (Eric and Leslie Ludy.)
So, who is he?
This man knows and loves the Lord. He is someone who will talk about all things with me and confide in me. He is my best friend and knows me better than anyone; including the secrets of my heart that only God knows. Words are not needed to understand each other, as he is in tune with my soul: my mind, my will and my emotions. He accepts my faults and loves me unconditionally. I can be my true self; completely and freely. He knows I'm a work in progress like him and he accepts me exactly as I am.
He is the leader of our family, but he knows how to walk beside me and be my equal. He knows I can be independent, but realizes when I am fragile and vulnerable; I am completely safe with him. He wants to attain goals, have an abundant future, loves children and has a heart for my son. He loves to laugh and be silly, but knows when to be serious. Like my father showed me a man should be: he is protective, gentle, kind, tender, loving, humble, sincere, loyal, compassionate, patient, understanding, confident and is a man of integrity. I always feel special when I am around him because I am the focus of his attention and when we are together the world fades away; he captivates me.
He treats me as the Princess in God's kingdom that I am. Honoring and defending me, he is the one I trust enough to cry with. When I enter a room he guides me by the small of my back...
Cornerstones & Foundations of a Healthy Relationship
I diligently sought after God's design for a loving relationship, doing every bible study I could get my hands on, and sitting in Therapy working hard on developing myself. I also have read lots of Healthy Relationship books. I've complied a list of attributes I personally agree are the benchmarks of a true, mature and committed relationship.
Below are the Cornerstones and Foundation of a healthy relationship. You need a solid foundation to place these Cornerstones, which are key components. Without either, a relationship will be weak and can easily crumble.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful. It is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. It is not rude. It does not dishonor others, it is not selfish or self-seeking, it is not provoked, it is not easily angered, it forgives; it keeps no record of wrongs. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. Love bears all things, it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
"A long-term relationship is best built on a solid Foundation, one able to offer strong support for the challenges the years to come will inevitably hold."
The Foundation
Definition - "an underlying basis or principle for something."
-Shared morals and values
-Compatible life goals and dreams, a shared Vision
-Common interests
-Financial Budget
-Spiritual compatibility
The 7 Cornerstones:
Definition -"an important quality or feature on which a particular thing depends or is based"
The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:2 to Walk in Love.
"Say the “hard things” from love.
Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner."
Communication
-Effective and active listening
-Empathetic listening skills
-Problem Solving
-Conflict Resolution
-Fair fighting
Love
-Love is a Verb, it's an action
-Fluent in all 5 Love Languages
-Romance
-Appreciation
-Investment
-Honor
-Edification
Responsibility
-Accountable for behaviors and actions
-Acknowledges past use of violence
-Admits being wrong
-Reliable
Honesty
-loyalty
-Integrity
-Truthful, open, clear and direct communication
-Able to be vulnerable; honest about being scared or insecure
-Willing to admit and accept differences
Respect
-Maintains clear boundaries
-Nurtures the needs and wants of their partner, themselves, and the relationship
-Respects others’ rights to their own feelings, friends and activities
-Trusts and believes in their partner
-Values intimacy
Cooperation
-Works together to solve problems
-Negotiates and compromises
-Doesn’t always have to be “right”
-Willing to see the other side of issues
Support & Affirmation
-Values others’ opinions
-Listens non-judgmentally
-supports emotionally
-Encourages mutual growth
Partnership
-Offers commitment
-Makes decisions jointly
-Flexible in roles
-Interdependent instead of dependent
Below are the Cornerstones and Foundation of a healthy relationship. You need a solid foundation to place these Cornerstones, which are key components. Without either, a relationship will be weak and can easily crumble.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful. It is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. It is not rude. It does not dishonor others, it is not selfish or self-seeking, it is not provoked, it is not easily angered, it forgives; it keeps no record of wrongs. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. Love bears all things, it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
"A long-term relationship is best built on a solid Foundation, one able to offer strong support for the challenges the years to come will inevitably hold."
The Foundation
Definition - "an underlying basis or principle for something."
-Shared morals and values
-Compatible life goals and dreams, a shared Vision
-Common interests
-Financial Budget
-Spiritual compatibility
The 7 Cornerstones:
Definition -"an important quality or feature on which a particular thing depends or is based"
The Bible tells us in Ephesians 5:2 to Walk in Love.
"Say the “hard things” from love.
Become aware of the hard things that you’re not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you’re feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner."
Communication
-Effective and active listening
-Empathetic listening skills
-Problem Solving
-Conflict Resolution
-Fair fighting
Love
-Love is a Verb, it's an action
-Fluent in all 5 Love Languages
-Romance
-Appreciation
-Investment
-Honor
-Edification
Responsibility
-Accountable for behaviors and actions
-Acknowledges past use of violence
-Admits being wrong
-Reliable
Honesty
-loyalty
-Integrity
-Truthful, open, clear and direct communication
-Able to be vulnerable; honest about being scared or insecure
-Willing to admit and accept differences
Respect
-Maintains clear boundaries
-Nurtures the needs and wants of their partner, themselves, and the relationship
-Respects others’ rights to their own feelings, friends and activities
-Trusts and believes in their partner
-Values intimacy
Cooperation
-Works together to solve problems
-Negotiates and compromises
-Doesn’t always have to be “right”
-Willing to see the other side of issues
Support & Affirmation
-Values others’ opinions
-Listens non-judgmentally
-supports emotionally
-Encourages mutual growth
Partnership
-Offers commitment
-Makes decisions jointly
-Flexible in roles
-Interdependent instead of dependent
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